what are we , gals/ladies/lovers/wives looking for in the exisiting relationships with friends,boyfriends,partners,husbands......
yest had a cool afternoon chats with few of my galfriends on how men usually take their partners/lovers/galfriends/wives for granted after they got settled down thru time....
was it really men's fault? or are we expecting too much out of the mundane?
I would say it takes 2 to clap in all situations, relationships....
No one likes to be forgotten through time.... and perhaps gals are more sensitive to their feelings but not as out-spoken ! gals would always be gals.... we love all things romantic and sweet, little things that touches you out of the blue, little surprises on the journey through each week, days, months or years..... seeing our men saved up to get us that particular "item" that we loved so much and for sure we can afford to get it but still........we just want our loved one to get it for us ..... hehehe to show that they appreciate and love us still !
perhaps all we are looking out for are signs......signs that u guys still care for us, like how u guys used to woo us in courtship days, signs that you are still loving us lots and lots more through time, signs that we are not forgotten , that we are not just a shadow in your daily routine....
Mushy words are like little toppings to the decorations of a beautiful cake , to make it even more yummy ! So dont be shy or stingy with those.....
Appreciations are greatly appreciated too in all ways in all relationships ! show that u care and love your loved ones, friends...
a little hugzs goes a long way too ...... *wink*
so gals are still gals afterall ! Haahhahahah !!
yest had a cool afternoon chats with few of my galfriends on how men usually take their partners/lovers/galfriends/wives for granted after they got settled down thru time....
was it really men's fault? or are we expecting too much out of the mundane?
I would say it takes 2 to clap in all situations, relationships....
No one likes to be forgotten through time.... and perhaps gals are more sensitive to their feelings but not as out-spoken ! gals would always be gals.... we love all things romantic and sweet, little things that touches you out of the blue, little surprises on the journey through each week, days, months or years..... seeing our men saved up to get us that particular "item" that we loved so much and for sure we can afford to get it but still........we just want our loved one to get it for us ..... hehehe to show that they appreciate and love us still !
perhaps all we are looking out for are signs......signs that u guys still care for us, like how u guys used to woo us in courtship days, signs that you are still loving us lots and lots more through time, signs that we are not forgotten , that we are not just a shadow in your daily routine....
Mushy words are like little toppings to the decorations of a beautiful cake , to make it even more yummy ! So dont be shy or stingy with those.....
Appreciations are greatly appreciated too in all ways in all relationships ! show that u care and love your loved ones, friends...
a little hugzs goes a long way too ...... *wink*
so gals are still gals afterall ! Haahhahahah !!
6 comments:
Absolutely agree with Ayako. No matter how looong & definite any relationship is, mushy routine is important. Be it kissing each other 1st thing every morning, just before going to bed; holding hands when in bed, saying "I love u" to each other at least once day, etc... It's also important to constantly have something that both of us can look forward to together. Hence, special days like anniversary & birthdays are important. They make us conscientiously make special effort to show that we still love & care for each other.
Well, as much as we like surprises, I'm sure our guys love to be surprised to... So we should be more proactive sometimes i guess.
Love is a wonderful thing. We should all enjoy & embrace love! :)
huh? 'i love u'? in all those years that we are together, i only saw those words written once on a card that he sent me from hk when i came back to work in 2003. he has never, ever said those words to me.
i suppose it's different strokes for different folks.
so girls, stop 'looking' for signs. if u want something, for goodness sake open your mouth and ask! your man is not a psychic. he can't read your mind (or he may read it wrongly for all you know) and when that happens, u get all upset :P
ahem... why do i sound like a man all of a sudden? kekekekek
i quite agree with betsy n ayako. but regina has a point too..
to me it's funny if you request those mushy words and stuff from a guy.. If they says i love you to you without you asking you'll feel more loved..
wah..i think my heart will melt la..keke..
before n after courtship the guy is different.
before n after marriage the guy is different too..
i think these changes surface is becoz the guys suddenly realise that they have lots of responsibilties, for his family etc.. and they too tired to be more passionate towards their lovers and wives..
I think all of you have a point; how a relationship is depends on the people and the environment in which they are in. Frankly, i wish i have more time and resources to devote to love, relationships, and romance, but i don't. Like Cindy said, us guys have responsibilities and those reponsibilities change as events change. If you want to know the secret to getting better responses from your guys, it's this: focus on him, reduce his worries as much as possible, and try to make him happy. Just because he doesn't say 'I love you' doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Maybe he's got a lot of worries or issues on his mind. Maybe he shows his love through other ways other than saying it out loud. Appreciate the little things he does for you (you gals always complain about guys taking you for granted but do you really appreciate your guys and the things they do for you? most of the time the response is no right?) and you'll be happier off.
Ultimately, you are responsible for your own happiness; don't be so dependent on other people. A partner is like icing on the cake, they should add to your life but they should not BE your life. Live your own life. If you love your partner, make them happy and do it because you want to, if you really love them, seeing them happy will also make you happy. If your partner is not satisfying you and you're not happy, then think seriously about the relationship, whether it's right for you, and why you're in the relationship in the first place.
is not easy to find a perfect relationship, we have to learn to accept each other bad habits and likes.
life is short, show your love for him/her & friends.
I luv you all my friends... hug hug.. :P
where's my prince?...
hahas elaine..
your prince will soon drop from the sky de.. hee..
don't worry la..hahahas
= P
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